I believe that this situation will happen to you at one time or another, there is a certain man that you are interested in but he still has his thoughts on his ex-boyfriend. Or you started dating a man and then later you realized that this man often mentions his ex-girlfriend in your conversations.





Today, as Doctor Manpenzi, we have decided to stop this epidemic by coming up with effective methods that will surround a man like this so that he can only think of you and no one else.


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#1 Give it time.

Sometimes it's best to give your partner time to forget the past. A man who has broken up with his ex can usually take a long time to get back to normal. So if you really love a man then give him the time he needs so that he can forget his ex. That's not a bad thing to do.


Giving him time to think helps because he will be losing his old thoughts with his lover. Make sure you stay away from him completely or he may see you as a nuisance or an obstacle in his life.


#2 Be her friend and give her the support she needs.

The first thing to do is to be a good friend to him. It's normal to feel low and lonely when you're out of a relationship. So if you have the desire to jump on him and start a relationship with him then it may turn on you because his issues have not been resolved yet.


For now, all you need is to show him that you are his best friend, listen to everything he has to say and also give him the support he needs. Doing this will make him see that you value him and see you as a person who was close to him during this period of grief. Even if the things you expected to happen as you wanted did not happen, it will not be a big problem coz you have already laid a good foundation for him and you in your life.


#3 Don't let him enter you into the realm of friendship.

Here comes the problem. Once you spend a lot of time with him by going to watch football together, walking, shopping, etc., you will already capture his attention. But is this the atenshen you've been looking for?


The problem comes here: be very careful not to become like "one of the men" or you may become one of those - his friends. Make sure you make an effort to look beautiful, attractive, have confidence, and make the other men notice you. Make him see you as a 'prospective' lover by interacting as friends and also by giving him subtle/hidden signals to attract him.


#4 Make sure you know each other.

Although you cannot force him to enter into a relationship with you, this will be a good time to get to know each other without any pressure. Go and eat ducks together by doing things that you both like. Make sure you make it fun, funny, and give him an environment where there were no surprises or dramas.


As we said before, you must be using the best method to show him that you are interested in him. But don't be greedy or you will scare him.


#5 Be careful with stimuli.

Stimuli can come in many different forms. it can be perfume, cinema, clothes, restaurant. These stimuli remind him of his former lover and how they used to enjoy their lives, something that can peel the heart wounds that he has already been trying to heal.


So to make sure that you will not arouse the feelings of his ex-lover then you must avoid these stimuli. For example, if he was going to a certain restaurant with his girlfriend, then that restaurant would not dare to try to go through there. Make sure you avoid the clothes, ointments, cosmetics that her boyfriend used to use. Make sure he completely forgets about such things. If you manage to accomplish this then it will be a good time for you to start erasing his mind little by little.


#6 Let him experience his freedom.

There are things that this man was missing when he was with his girlfriend. So you should not be the threshold for him to try new things. This can be like going out with his friends at night, traveling to faraway places, or spending the whole week at home playing his games. Let him feel free. Give him all the support he needs. Also understand his problems and problems.


#7 Get involved in physical activities together.

In addition, if you are exercising or having sex, it is important to keep your body active at all times as long as your mind is not filled with thoughts of previous events. Exercising naturally relieves stress and brings a positive outlook on life.


You can cheer him up by making love that he has never experienced since he was born or you can just decide to convince him to give up the habit of sweeping his house and instead go to the gym to exercise together. And don't forget to show him what he deserves.


#8 Boost his confidence.

His past relationships can lower his self-confidence. He may feel inadequate, and he may find that he cannot find another woman as good as his previous girlfriend. Build him up by praising him.


Start with thingssmall things such as talking about his new hairstyle, his tie, and then start talking more about how he manages his time well or how he has a good relationship with his colleagues. Make him feel that he is the best by giving him the attention he needs. Make sure you give him good attention so that he can have a positive attitude in his life.


#9 Give him a chance to close the page.

Often a person fails to break up with his ex because he has not yet had a chance to close the page. If this is the situation affecting the man you are dating, maybe this will be a good time to give him a chance to close the chapter completely with his ex-boyfriend. If she feels like going to talk to him, give her freedom. It can be a threat to him and to you, but maybe this is the main thing that he needs so that he can see his ex as a worthless person in his life.


Giving him this chance could be the end of him thinking about his ex forever.


#10 Be valuable.

You may have helped him all this time to forget his ex and now all his thoughts have come to you - but you have only been there to waste his time all this time. If your idea is to play with this man, please give him a chance to live on his own, don't disturb him! Trying hard to forget someone and then going through the same tragedy again is a very big nightmare. The risk he takes the second time always requires a high level of courage, so make sure that you are valuable to him because he is committed to you.